I have been listening to a CD series of Dr. Ken Wapnick called: The Experience of A Course In Miracles, A Commentary on the section: “Development of Trust.” This 10 CD series covers the development of trust and the six stages a student goes through while on the path set forth by the Course.
All of the ten characteristics of God’s teachers rest on Trust which is the first. The other nine are: Honesty; Tolerance; Gentleness; Joy; Defenselessness; Generosity; Patience; Faithfulness and Open Mindedness. I am sharing the below notes because it is a powerful look at the dynamic of why we “LOVE to hate! (You can purchase the CD series at http://www.facim.org)
Notes from Ken Wapnick, Ph.D. – Development of Trust CD 2.4
“Love makes no comparisons. Love is perfect Oneness. In Heaven there is no duality – no comparing – no judgment. In Heaven there is only ONE – not even God and Christ are separate and that One knows nothing else. God does not know we are here. God does not know of illusions – if He did it would make it true. No Duality – only One. (For those who are put off by the term “God” just think Love because no one knows what the mystery of God could be.)
In this world however, we have the ego’s distortion of love which in the Course is called “Special Love.” Here, in the world of duality, everything is based upon comparisons. You have something that I lack and therefore what I lack is what I want – so I set out to get it from you. We make special relationships very interesting in all the ingenious ways we go about getting or stealing from others what we think we need for our own salvation.
This works both in the forms of special love and special hate. Special hate is when what you have, that I lack, which is innocence, I then feel sinful because I believe I’m a sinner (and I compare you to me) therefore what I do is I project my sin onto you thereby making you the sinner, and thereby making you worthy of my hate!
That’s why we all love to hate in our world. I hate you because if I make you are the repository of sin, then I am innocent because in the ego thought system it is always one or the other. (So when I hate someone that makes him the sinner and therefore I am innocent….. per the ego. This is why we “love” to hate. We get rid of our guilt nice and neatly. I’ve always wondered why it is we “love” to hate – especially those of another political party, or someone who is richer, prettier, more talented, etc. Find an example in your own life to understand the projection/psychology behind it but don’t feel guilty about it just look at what your ego does to keep love away!)
Everything in this world is based upon comparisons. It is impossible to avoid this. Perception is all about comparisons and judgments. You couldn’t see otherwise. When we perceive something we’ve already make the judgment that it is important and everything else is unimportant.
The Right minded use of comparisons is to evaluate the difference between the ego’s thought system and the Holy Spirits. What is the ego’s thought system is all about is judgment and separation. When we catch the ego’s tricks we understand what it is up to. We see it is false and it is all made up. Our resistance in looking is what makes this so difficult.”
I recommend going to the book: A Course In Miracles; see the Manual for Teachers towards the back of the book; and see # 4. What are the Characteristics of God’s Teachers, I. Trust. and A. Development of Trust.
The Elusiveness of Peace and Joy!
Do you want peace and joy? Of course you do. As least you think you do until you have a judgment or an upset that you won’t let go of. You are sure something was done to you and you are right and the offending party should go to hell. Or places like that. OK – maybe you are right but do you want peace and joy? You can’t have it if you want someone to go to hell or hold onto an upset that you will not consider in another way.
I know someone who is holding onto a grievance. He was actually attacked, pushed up against a fence and would have been hit if someone had not interfered. Why did the perpetrator assault him? He had responded to an insult with his own insult and that angered the attacker and so he took matters into his hands, literally. Who started it? It doesn’t matter. What matters is how we now find the peace that eluded us the first moment we reacted. That will be the subject of another article and an important one for now, let’s look at where we find ourselves and how can we choose another way back to the peace we want.
We have not found peace by remembering and replaying the event because we are stuck in our belief system and we are sure we are in the right. But are you happy being in the right? Would you rather be right or happy? Now when we see that person or think of them we are unhappy. Ask yourself: Do I want peace and joy?
If the answer is YES, then decided to STOP the set belief in your mind (just for a moment) and choose another way to look at this? Say: “OK – I’ll look at this another way for the sake of my own peace.”
*“Begin to think of that (person) brother who has been denied by YOU the peace and joy that is his right under the equal laws of God. You have denied them to yourself and now you claim them as your own. Think of this brother a little while and tell him in your mind:
My brother peace and joy I offer you,
That I may have God’s peace and joy as mine.”
We don’t think that just because we have denied peace and joy someone else that in so doing we are in effect really denying them to our self. If you hold hate or a grudge in your mind, you are the one HOLDING the hate and the grudge in yourself. You are the sufferer. Do you think your brother is suffering? We don’t know but we do know you are.
Would you rather say to that brother?
My brother, misery and suffering I offer you
That I may have the ego’s misery and suffering as mine.
Which version do you choose? If the word God bothers you, take it out. God won’t care. That mystery is love and love never condemns. It doesn’t know how to. Make a copy of the pledge and paste it around the house. Take yourself on as a student and train yourself to accept that peace and joy is your inheritance and that you are worth it.
* This quote comes from the spiritual book, A Course In Miracles, Workbook lesson 105 God’s Peace and Joy are Mine. Visit www.acim.org go The Workbook lessons and then when the lesson comes up, click on “hear” and listen to the entire lesson and close your eyes. Choose peace!
Hint: When you give you also receive!
You are a decision making mind! Right?!
However, you are a decision making mind that has decided it is NOT a decision making mind! At least not all the time and here is why.
IN our world of illusion we have a split mind: the ego and the right mind which the Course calls the part of the mind we use to access the Holy Spirit, Jesus, the Love within. Observe your mind when it is on automatic. There are thoughts of worry, envy, judgments, fear, and also thoughts of appreciation, a friend, a loved one, clouds or spring flowers, raspberries, chocolate, or coffee. Understand that there are various categories of ideas, thoughts running helter skelter, hither and yon and where are you? If you are following your ego lock, stock and barrel you are not using the right mind. You are off course! The Course in Miracles, tells us our egoic thoughts are not out real thoughts. Our real thoughts are the thoughts we share with God, with love. It also says the memory of God comes to the quiet mind.
The Course In Miracles has a workbook of 365 lessons, one per day, that trains us to see through the veil and reclaim our decision making mind. That process helps us learns to make the choice between the ego and the right mind. It is a journey without distance. You don’t need to travel to see a guru or take a workshop but you will be led by a quiet voice of love within. The journey is inner, it is between your Self and the Love within that will hold your hand the entire time and for all time. Take the journey with the intention and determination that you are doing something very Holy. It is truly a mind training and life changing journey and you will succeed.
Take the journey to your real home. Start at lesson number 1 and read one every day no matter if you understand it or not. Keep going!
When you get to lesson 35 you will read: “My mind is part of God’s I am very Holy.”
Keep going – your decision making mind is in charge! You are on your way HOME to the true Self!
www.acim.org – look at the lessons and the text
www.miraclecenter.org – find a study group in your area.
www.facim.org – lots of wonderful books by Dr. Ken Wapnick
The Metaphysical/Spiritual book called A Course In Miracles contains a workbook that offers a lesson for each day. The lessons are offered online so you do not have to buy the book to get started. http://www.acim.org – see directions below.
You can start the lessons anytime you want but be sure to start at lesson #1, as they follow a mind training process that is powerful and helps us see through the world and the illusions that make us sad, angry, depressed, anxious, happy at times, sadness over death, destruction, injustice and more. I believe the Course has brought many back from the brink hopelessness because it did for me.
Would you like to forgive the world? It may not seem that you need to but the world has a way of showing us what we dislike as well as what we like. The world is dualistic. It contains the opposites that we then judge as good or bad! We gradually give the world up by forgiving seeing it for what it is and in doing so we become the Light that is our true identity!
Today, March 16th is the 75th day of the year and today’s Lesson 75. The Light Has Come.
The lessons can be read online and they have been recorded so you have the option of sitting back and listen to the lesson being read to you!
“The Light Has Come.”
Go to http://www.acim.org
click on Online Lessons
click on Workbook table of Contents and
Choose 75! Enjoy being in the Light! Listen to a lesson any time you want!
If we are 100% responsible not for WHAT we see but the WAY we see it we are withdrawing our projections and living the examined life that the Course In Miracle’s is encouraging us to do.
His Holiness The Dalai Lama has said on occasion that we will not have peace in the world until we have inner peace. Many spiritual paths help us become aware of the duality of the split mind containing opposite thoughts of love or fear. The thoughts of the false self, the ego is not who we are but it runs the world and our lives until we begin to awaken and learn to see it for what it is.
On that note, I awoke one morning recently with the following thought: “Our 45th President is operating from his personality, the false self. This false self, a mask is not the reality of his true identity. He is not that any more than my false self is who I am.” It was an “Ahh ha” moment because I’ve been aware that I certainly lose my peace when I watch him on TV or read the newspapers.
To delve further, it is our thoughts and judgments that determine whether we have the inner peace about which both the Course and his Holiness speaks. We can believe the thoughts or not, that is our choice. Judgmental thoughts come from our perceptions and then are projected ‘out’ and seen in someone else rather than accepted in myself. It’s called projection.
Some history per Wikipedia: “Psychological projection is a theory in psychology in which humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others. For example, a person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude. It incorporates blame shifting. In 1841, Ludwig Feuerbach was the first enlightenment thinker to employ this concept. The Babylon Talmud (500 CE) notes the human tendency toward projection and warns against it: “Do not taunt your neighbor with the blemish you yourself have.” The term “Projection” was conceptualized by Freud. He considered that, in projection, thoughts, motivations, desires, and feelings that cannot be accepted as one’s own are dealt with by being placed in the outside world and attributed to someone else. What the ego repudiates is split off and placed in another.”
To gain peace we gradually understand the projections we have placed on others by looking inward to see the “offense” is within. As Course students we honestly look and we recognize aspects of similarities if not in the exact form but similar in content. We thus, awaken because we look and gradually this is the way we undo the ego! It is not always easy to do because we prefer denial. But we accept and doing so we in effect forgive ourselves plus the one we are projecting onto. We are the same! We have looked at and withdrawn the projection. We changed our mind.
Inner peace and a piece of wholeness reclaimed is the prize! For example I may not send “tweets” attacking or insulting others but I may harbor judgmental thoughts. They may not be the same but still they are judgments. Freedom is: Looking without judgment, but when we do judge (and we will) don’t feel guilty for having judged! The ego will try and lay on the guilt but instead laugh, chuckle or smile at the folly of the crazy world. Eventually the ego will dissolve.
Why go to this trouble to acknowledge projection? If we keep it buried in our unconscious it will eventually emerge in anger, envy and hate. In making judgments we are in effect, depositing our “darkness or shadow” onto someone else. That may make us feel better for a while because we got rid of it but the downside is the residual blotch of guilt, a gift the ego neatly places in our mind. We are addicted to judgment after all we’ve been doing it since we threw our bottle across the room or whenever we decided we didn’t want to obey our parents, which echo’s the authority problem we have with anyone from bosses to God.
The Course In Miracles in Chapter 11. God or the Ego, Section V. The “Dynamics” of the Ego, pg 202 states:
“No one can escape from illusions unless he looks at them,
for by not looking is the way they are protected.”
Whenever your peace flies away, democrat, republican or independent your ego has taken charge. You are pushing love away. The Course says this is reminiscent of the first thought of separation; the separation from God and from love. Whenever you feel a lack of love, look at your thoughts. Who or what are you judging? Judgment is separation and separation is not love; joining is.
We gradually learn we are One; we are the same; we all have the same false ego and the correction of the higher self.
Know this as you head out the door with your sign standing as a peacemaker -protester but at the same time exclude no one from your love. We can still disagree about policies while holding the hand of the other who sees things differently. Maybe put a few red hearts on your sign sending the subliminal message: Love is the reason I am here.
We are no longer staring at the shadows on the walls of Plato’s cave because we move to the Light by holding the hands of all brothers and trust knowledge and peace will lead the way. We are in good hands, we lack nothing and everyone is loved.
You are complete, healed and whole!
“Peace now belongs here, because a Thought of God has entered. What else but a Thought of God turns hell to Heaven merely by being what it is?” M. 11.How is Peace Possible in this World? P.4.8 & 9.
The above quote from the Manual of A Course In Miracles can relax our tortured mind if we remember that Peace is of God. The memory of God is in our mind and we, mankind have denied it but it is impossible to destroy that memory. Mankind has forgotten who we are. We are of God, we are all His children. We are therefore related because we came from the same “Father” who loves us equally. We are One. We realize that when we remember to think of God.
This is how peace is possible in this world: Thinking of God, remembering God IS and that you are LOVED, we are ALL LOVED EQUALLY. We are ONE.
We are related beyond the color of skin; culture; religion, country of origin; language or sex. We are One.
Since God is mysterious compassionate all encompassing eternal LOVE and we are His offspring, then we inherited the same attributes of compassionate eternal love. This means we will never die – our bodies will, but our true SPIRIT SELF is eternal like God.
No one can exist or has ever lived that is not of God. Our task is to remember who we are and we do that by ceasing all judgment.
“Ask yourself whether your judgment or the Word of God is more likely to be true. For they say different things about the world and things so opposite that it is pointless to try to reconcile them. God offers the world salvation; your judgment would condemn it. God says there is no death; your judgment sees but death as the inevitable end of life. God’s Word assures you that He loves the world; your judgment says it is unlovable. Who is right? For one of you is wrong.” M. 11. 4. 2.8.
“Peace is impossible to those who desire war. Peace is inevitable to those who offer peace. How easily, then, is your judgment of the world escaped! It is not the world that makes peace seem impossible. It is the world you see (through the eyes of the ego) that is impossible. Yet has God’s Judgment on this distorted world redeemed it and made it fit to welcome peace.
Peace now belongs here because a Thought of God has entered.” M. 11.4.1-8
Your mind is becoming a judgment FREE ZONE!! That is Peace!
http://www.acim.org (The Course In Miracles is now in several languages.)
This is the title of Workbook Lesson 187 in A Course In Miracles.
The lesson starts off: “No on can give unless he has. In fact, giving is proof of having.”
If we STOP counting our problems and setbacks and worries we could make room for thoughts that bless ourselves where we are right now – wherever that may be.
Bless yourself for all the thoughts of love that you extend to friends and family. Extend love to that person you saw standing in line at the grocery story who you judged as _________ (fill in the blank) by sending them message now. A simple little thought like -“I saw you there and my ego judged you but now I withdraw that thought and see you as a Holy Son of God that you are.”
Since you send the blessing you have right now blessed yourself. You have also blessed the world because you powerful mind sent a the powerful thought of LOVE and acceptance. The Course says all minds are JOINED at some level, so just know your loving thought was received not only by that person but to others – the whole enormous family!
In the Course, Chapter 1, Page 14 in the text:
Perfect love casts out fear. If fear exits, there is not perfect love
Only perfect love exists. If there is fear, it produces a state that does not exist!
Send perfect love. The miracles is remembering you are a Decision Making Mind and you can choose the Holy Spirit, in your mind, (the thought of peace) and send love or even ask for help…..RIGHT NOW!
Go to Workbook Lessons and see Lesson 187