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Christmas: Giving and Receiving

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Years ago our youngest son looked inquiringly at his Dad and said “Why Christmas?” It was a perceptive and honest question from his little three year mind. How would you answer that question? It is a good question to pose to our grown up selves. We rush about planning and making lists and drive ourselves crazy or get on the internet and figure out the best deals. We fret over what to give to whom and will they like it, that’s the big question. And then we imagine them opening it up and watching carefully for the expression that comes in that twinkling moment.

Maybe that “instant” is our gift! That shining twinkling moment when we made someone happy, made them smile and gasp with surprise. Then we hear their laughter, hopefully not a groan, and words of thanks or maybe a smooch!

My husband’s father loved Chocolate Covered Cherries. Every year we gave him a box. Finally one year he opened the gift and said, “Oh No, not Cherries again.” That was the last year we gave him cherries! How many of us have opened presents we definitely did NOT like and managed to feign appreciation showing we “love it” and have “always wanted one?”

Back to Why Christmas? Well it is all about Jesus and his Birth right? Look at how we avoid Jesus and his teachings these days. A few years ago I was reading a book about Jesus. The author had put his beautiful face smack on the cover. A gentleman stopped to inquire what I was reading.   I closed the book and showed him the cover. You would have thought I was pointing a machine gun in his face! He was absolutely horrified, shocked! His eyes were big, brows shot up and he looked like someone had hit him with a stun gun. His adverse reaction was palpable. He said “Oh” and hurried away as quickly as he could.

Where does that reaction come from? For over 2,000 years the world has had Jesus to deal with. All faiths have their concepts but where does that “aversion” comes from.

One reason (and I am not a scholar) could be because the Bible claims he is God’s ONLY begotten son. So where does that leave the rest of us and the horrified man? We know of families that have a favorite child whose attributes out shine everyone else; that special child. Could it be collective unconscious jealousy runs through a society feeling resentment and somehow unloved. It can fester over a lifetime and throughout the ages. How many of us, deep down, feel as adored as that baby? The sweet song, ‘Away in the Manager’ always brings tears to my eyes.

If we don’t resent him we may try to out-do him! Climb the highest mountains; make the most money; give the biggest gift; have the biggest house or most expensive car or? We are all looking for love and appreciation. Maybe God (and others) will love us if we do such and such.

And yet we celebrate baby Jesus at Christmas and sing carols to him not knowing that baby is also us, you and me. If we had been students of the spiritual book, A Course In Miracles, at the time our young son asked, we could have told him that baby Jesus was (and still is) loved very much by God and YOU my child, are too! We are all God’s sons, the Christ. God being Eternal Unchanging Love never condemns or rejects anyone. In the First Chapter of the Course Jesus tells us:

“You are a perfect creation, and should experience awe only in the Presence of the Creator of perfection. Equals should not be in awe of one another because awe implies inequality. It is therefore an inappropriate reaction to me. An elder brother is entitled to respect for his greater experience, and obedience for his greater wisdom. He is also entitled to love because he is a brother, and to devotion if he is devoted. It is only my devotion that entitles me to yours. There is nothing about me that you cannot attain. I have nothing that does not come from God. The difference between us now is that I have nothing else. This leaves me in a state which is only potential in you.” ACIM I.II.3.

So….Jesus our elder brother is devoted to us, YOU and ME, everyone! He demonstrates to us our potential. No one is excluded from Love not even a politician. He tells us we are all the same in the ego world because we feel separated from God and our only need is to choose love instead of fear and hatred.  And like Jesus we can offer tolerance, love and yes forgiveness too as we free our spirit from the tight grip of judgment and hatred. For 2,000 years his wisdom has endeavored to open our hearts and minds to the clarity of healing light. We come here to learn lessons, to see through the ego and world programming and to exclude no one from our love. All hate is from the ego; all love is God. When we give Love, we receive love.

That is giving and receiving.

Be like God – Love Every ONE!

Visit http://www.acim.org or http://www.facim.org

To find out more about A Course In Miracles

Holiday Peace

Oh, Oh… the Holidays are upon us!  How many of you are grinding your teeth because your least favorite relative will be showing up?  Relax, it happens to all of us but by bringing yourself to relax and forgive you will have freedom. You probably think you have to forgive them for some slight or even perhaps a terrible thing that they did, but you don’t.

We have been taught to judge everyone and everything since before we were 5 years old. Can you see your small self sitting at the Judges Bench with a gavel in your small hand and making decision about this one or that one: guilty/dislike or innocent/like?  We are taught to judge and know the score in order to protect ourselves. It is part of growing up in a dualistic world that contains both good and evil.

Let’s face it; some people we like and some we don’t.  If we can understand however that it is the thought “I like or dislike” in the mind that is causing the problem.  You can change it.  It is just a thought and is it really true?  Be open. First of all admit you are unhappy about something.  For example: You have a relative that really bugs you, he/she is a loud mouth, controlling, conniving busy body.  When you have a few minutes to spare this Holiday Season sit down, be still and take a few deep breaths until you feel calmer. Stay focused on that quiet safe place inside.  Imagine you are holding the hand of Love/Spirit/God, whatever compassion and love represents for you.  Stay quiet for a while and then tell Love, whose hand you are holding, what is on your heart, how do you feel?  Perhaps:  “Aunt Julia drives me crazy with her constant badgering questions and I want peace.  I’m afraid I may blow up.  How can I see her/this differently?”  Then wait and look and continue to stay quiet.  Watch your thoughts.   A thought will come, maybe in the next few minutes, an hour or maybe days later but stay open, hang tight!  The “ah ha” thought you’ve asked for will come and will bring peace.  If the thought does not bring peace, it is not from Love but is from the ego, the part of our mind that likes to holds the gavel.

We do not know everything there is to know about another, even close relatives. The “new” thought will bring a feeling of release coming from the voice for love and understanding to your Higher Self.   Sometimes this has to be repeated because the ego can be vicious and is resistant to input that is not of itself.  When we have been given the information to see a person, our self or a situation differently, we understand, we can then see it another way.  We cease believing our judgments and let them go because we were mistaken.  The ego is not our friend and will separate us from others as it projects onto them.  A projection is a judgment that we project out, onto someone else and perceive it in them, in order not to recognize aspects of it in our self.  Like disliking someone who constantly interrupts when we unconsciously do the same thing.

The spiritual, non-dual, metaphysical book, ‘A Course In Miracles’ states

“Forgiveness on the other hand is still and quietly does nothing.  It merely looks and waits and judges not.  He who would not forgive must judge, for he must justify his failure to forgive.”

When we quiet the mind we see that our judgments serve to separate and divide us, one from the other. We are miserable and alone.  We are not residing In Love.

How freeing to have a mind at rest!  During this Season of Love, rest yourself!

Go to the quiet place within and listen to the Love that IS You. We all have had experiences that seem beyond the forgiveness factor. The question is: How long do you want to hold onto the pain? We do have a very high tolerance for pain.  It will last as long as you hold the grievance/judgment. Take yourself off the judge’s bench, be pain free and forgive everyone for everything!

A Course In Miracles – Lessons with Forgiveness Themes

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Click on some of the Workbook Lessons below

Lesson 78. Let miracles replace all grievances

Lesson 121. Forgiveness is the key to happiness.

Lesson 122. Forgiveness offers everything I want

Lesson 134. Let me perceive forgiveness as it is.

What is Forgiveness – Workbook Part II page. 401

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