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See Love or the Call for Love

See either Love or a Call for Love

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The United Nation’s International Day of Peace is Saturday, September 21. Imagine all the people in all Nations of the World stopping for 24 hours to think about Peace! Peace with other countries, counties, family and neighbors!   The above symbol is love in Arabic.

We don’t have to hate. Do we? Do we have to judge or condemn? If a trusted adult tells us that others are offensive we may tend to believe them especially when we are young. We are taught and most of us believe and accept but we certainly don’t have to. For example my mother was prejudiced against a certain race. I had played with some of these kids at school and liked them so I did not accept her belief but I did obey her and not go to their house. As it turned out my sister married a man of that race and low and behold, she changed her mind. A mind is a beautiful thing to change. Mom was a lovely person but she accepted her conditioning and passed it on. It reminds me of the Roger’s and Hammerstein South Pacific song, “You have to be taught.” But we do not have to accept society’s teaching. Hate is a choice.

Could it be that a part of our mind enjoys hate? Think about how you feel when you are in the “hate” emotion. Doesn’t it make you feel strong and powerful and above all right! Years ago I worked in an office with a young man who was mentally impaired. He was from a rich family and he annoyed me and I disliked him. Looking back after years of spiritual work I wondered what that was about. I think I hated him because he reminded me of my own mental impairment. I always thought I was stupid! We project onto others that which we have inside yet do not want to see or admit. It is projected out and seen elsewhere but heaven not in me! When I think of him now, I send love to him wherever he is and I believe his soul receives it. I know mine does.

Hate and anger are harmful to the hater in many ways.  Have you ever tried to be nice when you didn’t want to? What does that type of mental activity do to the brain/body? Check out the Every Day Health website, https://www.everydayhealth.com/news/ways-anger-ruining-your-health/ this site document from various studies, the side effects of hate and negative emotions on the heart and brain, creating stress hormones causing depression and even inflammation.   The ego is the “Master Judge” in our mind that runs our lives until we understand we are in fact miserable and see through the fog and decide to change our thoughts and choose peace. The ego very wisely uses projection and hate as a road block to love. We choose the ego until we decide not to. We however have a choice because we are a decider!

Hate is offensive.  When we see angry people it is very ugly and distasteful. We feel a churning inside. TV and movies offer a heavy diet of violence and hate an onslaught to the nervous systems.   To be honest we need to admit the hate we see reflected in the world outside, is also within. If we can admit that then we are no longer in conflict and it dissipates. Instead of pulling the “wool” over our eyes we just look honestly and in looking, it dissolves. If we don’t fight it or put up obstacles we avoid a pile of buried guilt being placed deep within the psyche to emerge unexpectedly, which it will. Look squarely at the angry person and see either love or a call for love. Try it. You will access a place of peace. You do not need to say aloud “I love you” merely think it. The mind is choosing love instead of the ego’s automatic response of disgust or hate.   Their anger is their momentarily condition but not their reality. In giving love, you receive it. You don’t know if or what you will “do or say” as the situation will depend on wisdom from the higher Self. But you can always think love.

This quote is attributed to Abraham Lincoln: “To defeat an enemy, make him a friend.” You could also say “To defeat an angry person, recognize it is also within and see either love or a call for love.”

If I exclude love from others; I am excluding love from myself. With compassion we no longer condemn.

We are the same, we all people and nations need peace. The Spark of the Divine is within everyone, so I challenge myself to look for it.

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Elusiveness of Peace and Joy

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The Elusiveness of Peace and Joy!

Do you want peace and joy?  Of course you do.  As least you think you do until you have a judgment or an upset that you won’t let go of.   You are sure something was done to you and you are right and the offending party should go to hell.  Or places like that.   OK – maybe you are right but do you want peace and joy?  You can’t have it if you want someone to go to hell or hold onto an upset that you will not consider in another way.

I know someone who is holding onto a grievance.  He was actually attacked, pushed up against a fence and would have been hit if someone had not interfered.  Why did the perpetrator assault him?  He had responded to an insult with his own insult and that angered the attacker and so he took matters into his hands, literally.  Who started it?  It doesn’t matter.  What matters is how we now find the peace that eluded us the first moment we reacted.  That will be the subject of another article and an important one for now, let’s look at where we find ourselves and how can we choose another way back to the peace we want.

We have not found peace by remembering and replaying the event because we are stuck in our belief system and we are sure we are in the right.  But are you happy being in the right?  Would you rather be right or happy?  Now when we see that person or think of them we are unhappy.  Ask yourself: Do I want peace and joy?

If the answer is YES, then decided to STOP the set belief in your mind (just for a moment) and choose another way to look at this?  Say:  “OK – I’ll look at this another way for the sake of my own peace.”

*“Begin to think of that (person) brother who has been denied by YOU the peace and joy that is his right under the equal laws of God.  You have denied them to yourself and now you claim them as your own. Think of this brother a little while and tell him in your mind:

My brother peace and joy I offer you,

That I may have God’s peace and joy as mine.”

We don’t think that just because we have denied peace and joy someone else that in so doing we are in effect really denying them to our self.  If you hold hate or a grudge in your mind, you are the one HOLDING the hate and the grudge in yourself.  You are the sufferer.  Do you think your brother is suffering?  We don’t know but we do know you are.

Would you rather say to that brother?

My brother, misery and suffering I offer you

That  I may have the ego’s misery and suffering as mine.

Which version do you choose?  If the word God bothers you, take it out.  God won’t care.  That mystery is love and love never condemns.  It doesn’t know how to.  Make a copy of the pledge and paste it around the house.  Take yourself on as a student and train yourself to accept that peace and joy is your inheritance and that you are worth it.

* This quote comes from the spiritual book, A Course In Miracles, Workbook lesson 105 God’s Peace and Joy are Mine.  Visit  www.acim.org  go The Workbook lessons and then when the lesson comes up, click on “hear” and listen to the entire lesson and close your eyes.   Choose peace!

Hint: When you give you also receive!

 

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Be 100% Responsible for the “Way” you see!

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If we are 100% responsible not for WHAT we see but the WAY we see it we are withdrawing our projections and living the examined life that the Course In Miracle’s is encouraging us to do.

His Holiness The Dalai Lama has said on occasion that we will not have peace in the world until we have inner peace.  Many spiritual paths help us become aware of the duality of the split mind containing opposite thoughts of love or fear.  The thoughts of the false self, the ego is not who we are but it runs the world and our lives until we begin to awaken and learn to see it for what it is.

On that note, I awoke one morning recently with the following thought:  “Our 45th President is operating from his personality, the false self.  This false self, a mask is not the reality of his true identity. He is not that any more than my false self is who I am.”  It was an “Ahh ha” moment because I’ve been aware that I certainly lose my peace when I watch him on TV or read the newspapers.

To delve further, it is our thoughts and judgments that determine whether we have the inner peace about which both the Course and his Holiness speaks.  We can believe the thoughts or not, that is our choice.  Judgmental thoughts come from our perceptions and then are projected ‘out’ and seen in someone else rather than accepted in myself. It’s called projection.

Some history per Wikipedia: “Psychological projection is a theory in psychology in which humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others. For example, a person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude. It incorporates blame shifting. In 1841, Ludwig Feuerbach was the first enlightenment thinker to employ this concept.  The Babylon Talmud (500 CE) notes the human tendency toward projection and warns against it: “Do not taunt your neighbor with the blemish you yourself have.”  The term “Projection” was conceptualized by Freud.  He considered that, in projection, thoughts, motivations, desires, and feelings that cannot be accepted as one’s own are dealt with by being placed in the outside world and attributed to someone else. What the ego repudiates is split off and placed in another.”

To gain peace we gradually understand the projections we have placed on others by looking inward to see the “offense” is within.  As Course students we honestly look and we recognize aspects of similarities if not in the exact form but similar in content. We thus, awaken because we look and gradually this is the way we undo the ego!  It is not always easy to do because we prefer denial.  But we accept and doing so we in effect forgive ourselves plus the one we are projecting onto.  We are the same!  We have looked at and withdrawn the projection.  We changed our mind.

Inner peace and a piece of wholeness reclaimed is the prize!  For example I may not send “tweets” attacking or insulting others but I may harbor judgmental thoughts. They may not be the same but still they are judgments.  Freedom is: Looking without judgment, but when we do judge (and we will) don’t feel guilty for having judged!  The ego will try and lay on the guilt but instead laugh, chuckle or smile at the folly of the crazy world.  Eventually the ego will dissolve.

Why go to this trouble to acknowledge projection?  If we keep it buried in our unconscious it will eventually emerge in anger, envy and hate.   In making judgments we are in effect, depositing our “darkness or shadow” onto someone else.  That may make us feel better for a while because we got rid of it but the downside is the residual blotch of guilt, a gift the ego neatly places in our mind.  We are addicted to judgment after all we’ve been doing it since  we threw our bottle across the room or whenever we decided we didn’t want to obey our parents, which echo’s the authority problem we have with anyone from bosses to God.

The Course In Miracles in Chapter 11. God or the Ego, Section V. The “Dynamics” of the Ego, pg 202 states:

“No one can escape from illusions unless he looks at them,

for by not looking is the way they are protected.”

Whenever your peace flies away, democrat, republican or independent your ego has taken charge.  You are pushing love away.  The Course says this is reminiscent of the first thought of separation; the separation from God and from love.  Whenever you feel a lack of love, look at your thoughts.  Who or what are you judging?  Judgment is separation and separation is not love; joining is.

We gradually learn we are One; we are the same; we all have the same false ego and the correction of the higher self.

Know this as you head out the door with your sign standing as a peacemaker -protester but at the same time exclude no one from your love.  We can still disagree about policies while holding the hand of the other who sees things differently.  Maybe put a few red hearts on your sign sending the subliminal message: Love is the reason I am here.

We are no longer staring at the shadows on the walls of Plato’s cave because we move to the Light by holding the hands of all brothers and trust knowledge and peace will lead the way.  We are in good hands, we lack nothing and everyone is loved.

You are complete, healed and whole!

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January 21st – Women’s March

Can we oppose and still be in peace?

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On Saturday January 21st I joined thousands of women, men and children in a “March” from the Library to the Band Shell in Lithia Park.  My intention was to choose peace and walk, join in camaraderie with everyone and stand for inclusion and respect for all races, religions, health care and in protection of our environment. More on the March later.

Today I listened to a CD of  *Ken Wapnick.  He was answering a question about kindness and the question was if when advocating we need to be kind but we also need to make sure we detached ourselves from the outcome or whatever we were advocating for.  The answer was Yes and the point Ken made was that “while acting out of kindness we DO need to detach from the outcome, that only kindness counts because kindness multiplies as it is unlimited but do not attach to the outcome and you will be happy whether you win or lose.  If you are upset you are invested.”

What I understood is that we need to proceed from a place of “Love” for everyone and exclude NO ONE from our love or oppose anyone or attack in any way.  We need to realize that we are all the same.  We share the same ego.  Everyone wants things “their way.”  We share the same correction; the Holy Spirit (the advocate for Good and God) is in every minds.  We all carry the LIGHT or the spark of God within that joins us in Oneness.

In a quote I saw recently, His Holiness the Dalai Lama said “We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.”  To “make peace with ourselves” we have to look at “what we think” and “watch” our thoughts and judgments.  Our thoughts and judgments are what make us peaceful or perturbed, they are our projections.

Watching our projections is a gift to ourself, to our family, community and the entire world.  For example, when looking at a judgment about anyone, turn it around and make it about yourself as well.  This is hard because the idea about “seeing something out there” means I do not want to “see it in here – in me.”  That is why we PROJECT it out. For example our President makes judgments about people all the time.  I may think it is terrible but don’t I do the same thing?  I don’t put them on twitter or TV and I don’t have the same exact thoughts as he but I do judge.  What is important is WATCHING and CATCHING and KNOWING and OBSERVING the ego thought projections so I will REALIZE what I am doing.

Most of us keep our judgments to ourselves or we share them with a close friend.  Many of us were taught “if you can’t say something nice don’t say anything.”  Or “keep quiet and look intelligent but open your mouth and look stupid.”  But even when we think it – the judgment, it still in the mind and it is still separation, condemnation and attack.

We all have judgments and that is why the Dalai Lama says we can never obtain outer peace until we make peace within ourselves.  For peace within, we need to be vigilant for the judgments, own them, stop projecting and in so doing you are no longer in the misery of blame, condemnation or separation.   We all have an ego.  The ego mind separates and the way to peace is to watch it, look at it with the goodness i.e. the Holy Spirit in your Holy Mind and by bringing it to consciousness, it is gradually seen for what it is and diminished.

So back to the Women’s March.  There is nothing wrong with sending a message to the President as long as it is done from a place of love and not hate.  It is no longer hate, when we cleanse it of projection and separation.  I realize that I will be miserable if I continue to judge him instead of his policies.  I need to make sure that my advocacy comes from Love but does not exclude anyone.  Only loving thoughts reflect Truth and all other thoughts are from the false self or the ego.

I need to remember I can work (and walk) from that non-egoic place of love as guide and as a citizen and peace maker.  If I refuse to attach myself to the outcome then I will be happy.   I don’t know if my actions will be understood but I cannot worry about that.  If I am attached I will not have peace….and that is all I want.

Ken Wapnick, Ph.D. – visit http://www.facim.org – For books, recordings on the spiritual, mystical, metaphysical book A Course In Miracles and workshops by his staff.

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Love or Hate: Which do you choose?

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During this political season you probably “hate” one candidate and “love” the other?

Right?

We harbor both of these aspects within our Mind however, our true identity is attached to light and love.  Therefore “hate” is the intruder into your beautiful Mind.

But you are the boss!  You can decide not to hate anyone – including yourself.  You have that POWER!  You are the decider!

Say: “I refuse to hate myself or anyone – it makes me miserable and I let all the grudges and judgments GO!”

Really – you can do this.  Why do you hold onto the old grudges that make you miserable?  Do you like being miserable?  No!  So let it ALL Go!

It is that EASY!  TRY IT!!

For example – Decide you will be happy for the next hour!  Look at the clock – write down the time.  State your decision….I will let go of thinking about _______ and worrying about ______ or fretting about ________.  I will spend the next hour releasing and breathing and focusing on being pleasant.

Try it!  You have the Power and the Time is NOW!

The spiritual book, A Course In Miracles advocates forgiveness for inner peace.   However the Course sees forgiveness as looking at whatever or whomever is bothering us and finding it within ourselves.  We project onto others what is in fact within our mind and thoughts.

For example: If you are angry with Donald Trump because he is a rude bully – find the rude bully in you.  See the “content” and aspects of being a bully and rude within – even if it is only in the way you “think” but would never say aloud, and sure enough, it is there so now we can let it go.  That is forgiveness.

If you hate Hilary Clinton because she is not trustworthy, look within.  Are you trustworthy?  Really?  When were you not trustworthy?  Don’t go to guilt because that is ego territory.  In “looking” you are forgiving  and awakening. Try it with all those worries and little annoyances you listed above and have been harboring.  Then you are free!

A Course In Miracles, Workbook Lesson 105 ” God’s peace and joy are mine.”

http://www.acim.org  ( click on workbook lessons)